While I am not an individual who typically blogs about controversial topics, sometimes a broad has to dust off her soapbox and stand on it.

You see, I am someone who firmly believes that Jesus was sent to die for our sins and rose again, creating a pathway to eternal life with God. Simple as that. Unfortunately, I have found that I am not the best at bringing people into a relationship with Christ by merely talking to them. I was not blessed with the gift of verbal communication…just ask my husband.

So when people ask things like, “How did Jesus feed 5,000 people with only five loaves of bread and two fish?” I’m over here like, “Uhh…he’s Jesus.” (The response doesn’t typically fly with non-believers.)

I think it goes without saying, I try to let the light of Christ shine through my actions, rather than my words most days.


All of that being said, it’s hard to ignore some of the interesting actions of Christians lately, especially in the world of social media. While I’m not trying to put my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ on blast, I think it’s time to throw out the life preservers.

Being guilty of some of the following, I realize how easy it can be to not recognize what you are doing when you’re doing it. Which is why I have composed this handy list – just in case you happen to be repelling non-believers and not even know it.


1. You’re all up in arms over a red cup.

Do you know what message we send when we quibble over red cups? Well, for starters, we give Starbucks free advertising (genius move on their part). Additionally, it gives off the vibe that we, as Christians, have rooted our faith in words and Christmas prints on a cup, rather than in Jesus himself.

My favorite article on the topic comes from Emily Heath. If you haven’t checked out her post, “Christians and Coffee Cups”, you can can read it here.

2. You publicly COMPLAIN when someone does you wrong.

In a day and age where people are bound to get arthritis in their necks (if that’s even possible) from looking down at their phones so much, it’s not surprising that most individuals feel the need to share every aspect of their life on the world wide web – it’s how we stay connected. From interesting articles to pictures of what we ate for lunch, we document everything.

It’s no wonder when someone cuts you off in line, after you’ve been waiting 10 minutes for your infamous red cup, that you want to shout it out to the world. But guess what? When I see a fellow Christian put someone else on notice like that, it makes me think twice about how I “act” around them, for fear of being publicly persecuted via social media. The one evident truth about Christianity, is to LOVE, and when you toss out your complaints like yesterday’s trash all over your newsfeed, it doesn’t really scream, “Love thy neighbor.”

3. You curse.

“Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” 

Ephesians 4:29 NLT

I’ve been known to let a curse word slip every once in a while. Heck, before I came to faith, I was practically a sailor sans the ship. But when your sentences are filled with profanity, it’s hard to believe that you take what you’re reading in your daily quiet time seriously – and if you’re not going to take it seriously, why would someone who doesn’t have a relationship with Christ be interested in picking up what you’re putting down?

4. You approach touchy topics defensively.

It’s no secret that I am a pro-life supporter; but you won’t see me share an article on the subject if it comes off as a proverbial old testament stoning. The whole point of God sacrificing his one and only son, was so we could live in a world filled with grace, free from the law. Now don’t get it twisted, that doesn’t mean you have a get out of jail free card, it does mean however, that God’s grace covers your sin. When we get caught up in slinging our views in a negatively emotional way, grace goes right out the window and lands next to the #blessed welcome mat on our front porch. How’s that for irony.

5. You assume everyone believes what you believe.

Often times, I think the biggest fault of Christians, is we assume everyone believes what we believe. So when we are faced with a controversial topic, like gay marriage or abortion, our immediate reaction is to shove Jesus down each other’s throat – which inevitably only drives people further away. Not every Tom, Dick, and Harry believes in the redemptive work of Christ on the cross, but I bet my bottom dollar (whatever that means), the minute you start posting things like “God hates gays” (please refer to Westboro Baptist Church), you’ve forever lost the opportunity to share the LOVE of Christ with another human.

We may not be called to love the sin, but we are called to love the person. The same way God loves you, is how you are supposed to love another.

In other words, show some grace.

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20 comments on “5 Ways Christians Are Repelling Non-Believers”

  1. You make great points. As a Christian I struggle especially with being defensive! And even with thinking everyone thinks like me. I hate being “lumped” with the hypocrites, but oh wait, I’m one of those sometimes too. Thank God for his grace and mercy! I liked your soapbox. 😉

  2. I’m not Christian, but I can really appreciate this post because unfortunately it sometimes feel like there are so few of you out there like this! If you just believe what you want to believe, and let me believe what I want to believe, I’ll do the same and we’ll all get along swimmingly. Yes, we can talk about our beliefs and agree to disagree on some, but we don’t have to lose our mind every time someone thinks differently than us. There are many paths to god, how can we say ours is the only one? We can’t. We can only say that is the one that works for us and let people sort it out for themselves.

    • Angie, I’m sooo glad you commented on this post. After I saw your comment this morning, I even told my husband, “I had no idea she wasn’t a Christian.” Not that it matters whether you are or aren’t, but when you like and comment on things, you are always someone who sticks out in my mind! I’m grateful that you received my post in a positive light and for what it was; and this just further solidifies that no matter your background, we can be supportive of one other! 🙂

  3. In response to the article AND the comment above. I think there are a lot of us out there… but I think the noisy ones are heard more lol. The people who always have an opinion or judgement on EVERYTHING are the christians that unfortunately are heard more than us to try to live the word in love and leaving the judgement to the big guy. Now, I’m not perfect… I judge when I shouldn’t. But I for sure try hard to keep that in check. To the woman above Miss Angie, I’m so sorry that’s been your experience 🙁 I truly am.

    Danielle Greco
    AccordingtoD.com

    • I couldn’t agree more about “the noisy ones” getting all the attention, which inevitably makes them the “spokespeople” for Christianity. Maybe that’s why I had to dust off my soapbox today lol

  4. I love this. It is so hard as a Christian to sit back and watch fellow Christians say things that make you cringe. Why as Christians are we the first to jump down the backs of others. I think your words are perfectly said and poised. We are to love (or try to love) the way Jesus does. It’s hard but it’s a starting point that I think would change the world Christians see Christians and non-believers see Christians .

  5. What I find funny about the red cup situation is that I haven’t seen a single friend complaining about it, haha. It makes me wonder who really got up in arms about it? =) What you put into words here, I’ve been thinking for the past few years. There’s no way we can lead people to Christ if we ourselves aren’t portraying Him in the way we should be.

    • What interesting, Jaime, is I haven’t had any close Christian friends complain about the red cups either. I did, however, have a nurse the other day that could not stop talking it. 🙂

  6. You hit the nail on the head. I grew up in a very religious house (my parents aren’t mad about the red cup but still…) and as an adult I have found myself turned out by organized religion because of the above listed reasons. While I believe in God I can’t get behind certain things in MOST organized religions. Thanks for sharing this, it’s great to hear a Christian admit that sees these behaviors as understandably repelling… also I think the “hes Jesus” is a valid argument 🙂

    • I can totally understand being turned off by organized religions, everyone seems to live in one extreme or another. And let’s face it, ain’t nobody got time for that! And thanks for your support on the “he’s Jesus” 🙂

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