I don’t know if it’s the weather or the fact that my brain is temporarily on vacation (we are usually traveling this time of year), but I have been mentally checked out for a few weeks now.

When I told my husband that I felt like I was in a funk, he didn’t completely understand what I meant. It apparently appeared as though I have been in a good mood and present in our day-to-day lives; so when I listed off what I considered to be “a funk”, he looked at me like I was crazy.

Somewhere in the midst of my rambling, I mentioned that all I felt like doing lately was relaxing and playing with our kids. I didn’t want to answer emails or texts. Heck, I didn’t even feel like writing. I just wanted to focus on the day and enjoy it.

When he explained to me that the way I was feeling wasn’t actually a funk, but a good thing, that got me thinking…are my priorities in order?

are your priorities in order

Recently it seems like I have more things than I can count fighting for my time and attention – but how many of those things are actual priorities, things that are absolutely necessary? Are these things adding to my life or taking away?

From the minute I wake up, until the second my brain finally falls asleep at night, I am going non-stop.

On a regular basis my day starts with me checking my emails and social media before I even crawl out of bed. I always try to get in some quiet time before the kids wake up, and then it’s fair game. Whether I’m making breakfast, running errands, or folding clothes, my mind is always elsewhere. My attention is never 100% focused on what’s in front of me; and I’ve started to notice a change. I am ALWAYS exhausted – mentally drained, physically tired.

I really hate being tired. It’s like I’m pregnant all of the time without the reward of holding a precious babe at the end of nine months or getting to stuff my face with mini kit-kats. It’s terrible. Therefore, it’s time to reprioritize. If it isn’t adding to my life, it’s got to go. So, here is what is staying and my plan of action:

1. God.

I have got to start my day with intentional time in The Word. My day is completely different when I make the time to spend with God. Suddenly all the hurdles and curve balls that they day throws my way seem less like negatives and more like adventures…or at least a funny story to share later.

2. My husband.

It is so incredibly easy to put JD on the back burner. He is my constant, so I sometimes just assume that he knows that I love him, and therefore, is usually the last to get the treatment that he and our marriage deserves. Whether it be making his favorite meal for dinner, letting him pick the movie, or simply giving him my full undivided attention – it’s time to make sure he knows how important he is.

3. My kids.

For the most part, my kiddos are pretty independent. They can play by themselves regularly for 15-30 minutes (keep in mind they 2 and under), and I’ve gotten in the terrible habit of being distracted, scrolling through my Instagram or responded to emails that I don’t even realize I’m MISSING moments until the moment is missed. No more, I say.

4. Health and Fitness.

Let’s face it, I’m not where I want to be physically, and with swimsuit season around the corner, chowing down on pizza and wings (regularly) is not going to do the trick.

5. Rest. 

I have got to start listening to my body when it tells me to rest. It is OKAY if I want to sit and watch TV with my husband. It is OKAY if I want to take a nap. It is OKAY if I want to play outside all morning instead of answering text messages or folding clothes. It’s OKAY.

Along with the above mentioned, I would like to start really reading again. I remember feeling super awesome about myself when I was reading a new book every month. I would also like to make more time with friends and family, and just overall…start living in the moment again. This last year passed so quickly, that I can hardly recall the details; and now that we have kids, time only passes faster. Isn’t life more than a list of things that need to get done? What’s the point in going through the days if we aren’t actually LIVING them?!

So are your priorities in order? If not, what would you like them to be? Leave them in the comments below – I’d love to know what you think!

26 comments on “Are your priorities in order?”

  1. Much wisdom here, Amber! Some people never realize this in their lifetime. And if you are faithful to do #1 all the others will fall into place as they should. Thanks again!

  2. Speaking straight to my heart today! This has been on my mind for the last few months. Prioritizing what is important and learning to say no to things that just arent. I love this! Not only will you feel better but I think your fam will feel the positive change too! xx

  3. Yes! This is something God was teaching me HARDCORE after my 2nd child was born 4 years ago. And now that we have 3, it’s even more apparent and necessary for me to do only what’s most important. I’ve been learning about grace non stop since having children (hence the name, and focus, of my blog!)- it’s SO important!

  4. I love this post – it’s something I’m struggling with myself. I just can’t find enough time or motivation to get everything done that I want to and am totally forgetting what’s REALLY important in my life – my family and my “me” time. Thanks for sharing!

  5. Very encouraging read Amber! I feel the same way at times and know the “funk” you are talking about. Our priorities can easily get out or whack but it’s never too late to fix it! I sometimes get caught up in living in the future and not the present 🙂 I think your plan of action is fantastic!

  6. I think the biggest thing I’ve learned in being a mom and a blogger, is that you have to give yourself some grace. Forgive yourself for moments when you should be doing something else, or give yourself some time to breathe when you feel like you are in a funk! You are doing a great job! 🙂

  7. What a great post! When I feel off-balance or overwhelmed, I also try to go back to what’s important. My list almost mirrors yours exactly. God is definitely #1 because that’s where my strength, patience, and inner peace comes from. I need to work on putting my husband before the kids sometimes. I’m so guilty of not doing that. Exercise and eating well are sort of cornerstones for me, but I struggle so much with getting enough rest! Thanks for the encouragement. It’s nice to know I’m not alone 🙂

  8. I’ve definitely been going a little crazy trying to balance everything in my life, and my husband and I were talking yesterday about how it’s okay for me to have some downtown without feeling guilty. I just want to do it all! 😀

    • Hahah…yes!! I think that is the hardest thing, is realizing that we are meant to rest, and not feeling guilty when we do finally take some time for ourselves. And I too, always want to do it all! 🙂

  9. Such a great point! A friend and I were discussing this yesterday, just about how we can be so busy constantly that we feel tired and burdened all the time. I love that you made the jump from that to priorities – if you know what’s important, you can choose those things in the moment, instead of the five million other things you could also be doing at the same time. I feel like this is an epidemic!! All of us are trained to have four or five windows open at the same time on our computers, or in our heads 🙂 Sitting down and making priorities is a step to changing that. Thanks of sharing.

    • YESSSSSS to all of that!! I mean, as I’m sitting here, I have eight windows open. This is still obviously a daily struggle. I even went to the doctor this week because I thought I was having thyroid issues, and it turns out I’m just stressed and dehydrated…geez louise…what am I doing to myself!!

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