In a day and age where the normal pace of life is best described as warp speed, it’s no wonder why we feel like taking a break is completely out of the question.
As millennial moms, we enroll our children in things like music class and swim lessons, we whip out Pinterest crafts monthly, and somehow manage to make time to blog, Instagram, and Facebook all of the endeavors in-between. We are a generation filled with go-getters and momtrepreneurs who refuse to sacrifice our heart’s desires. We don’t give in to things like mom jeans or main-stream mommy methods, and we’ve also been known to rock the latest fashion all while multitasking meal times and playdates.
To say we are total bosses is putting it mildly.
On the flip side, we run ourselves into the ground. The characteristics that makes us Momstars, are also what leaves us physically exhausted and mentally drained. It’s almost like we don’t know what an off switch is.
We run on minimal sleep, drink way too much coffee, and are typically stretched in more directions than we can count. Unfortunately, all of that caffeine and lack of rest eventually catches up to us and we are faced with the hard reality that we either take a break voluntarily or our body will have no choice but to shut down all together.
The crazy thing is, when we do take a moment for ourselves to either catch a nap or watch some quality trash TV, we are somehow left feeling guilty – as if the world will collapse if we aren’t there holding it up with our perfectly laundered yoga pants.
Well ladies, I have discovered some mind-blowing information these past couple of weeks that will totally rock your world: THE EARTH WILL NOT SPIN OFF ITS AXIS IF YOU TAKE TIME TO REST.
…in fact, it will probably thank you, because let’s face it, everyone is a lot nicer when they are recharged.
But seriously, I am no exception to the rule when it comes to feeling a pang of irresponsibility if I decide to prop my feet up during my kiddo’s nap time instead of folding the clothes (that have been sitting in the basket for almost a week) or working on my blog. However, in the weeks leading up to Christmas I started to notice my brain was slowly losing its fuel and focus – all of a sudden I was forced to really evaluate how I was spending my time. Long story short, I couldn’t tell you where my days were going or what I was accomplishing. Sure I was pumping out blog posts twice a week, running errands, and taking an occasional shower, but what was I REALLY filling my days with?
After talking to my husband and a couple of close girlfriends, I decided it was time to throw in the towel and retreat to the basics.
For the majority of the last week and a half, my computer has remained closed – except for the occasional late night online shopping extravaganza of course. While I absolutely love blogging, it requires a lot of my time and focus, and I feel like this is a safe space to confess that sometimes my online world chips away at my undivided attention from my family. That’s why when I’m needing to feel recharged, it only makes sense to cut out the biggest “unnecessary” piece of the puzzle.
Don’t get it twisted, blogging is 100% vital to my sanity, but it definitely takes a backseat to my husband and kids; and when I can’t give them the wife and mom they deserve, it’s time to refocus.
6 out of the 7 nights of the week I am up until midnight or later. At some point I get up at least once, whether it be to go to the bathroom or check on one of the kids – rarely is my brief snooze uninterrupted. Which is precisely why over the Christmas break, I went to sleep whenever I felt like it. I didn’t stay up working on a new post (cough, cough..like right now), picking up the house, or watching TV until my eyes fell out of my head; I just slept. It was wonderful.
We went on adventures.
We are usually a very busy family and typically have most of our days mapped out, but as soon as JD took off work I threw all plans out the window and we spontaneously spent our days. We went on random afternoon walks, drove around the neighborhood whenever our toddler asked to see Christmas lights, and checked out ICE at the Gaylord Texan Resort in Grapevine. While some adventures didn’t go as smoothly as hoped, we made some seriously awesome memories. Truth be told, I can recall more fun experiences in the last 10 days than I can over the last couple of months. Something about intentionally focusing on my loved ones has left me in one incredible mood.
We spent time with family.
This one may seem fairly obvious considering the fact that it was the holidays, but for the first time in a while we truly concentrated on the people in front of us and not on our phones. It was absolutely refreshing! We laughed so much, talked for hours, and our hearts were left feeling full.
I reconnected with my husband.
I will be the first to admit that by the time we get the kids to bed, I just want to sit and not move or talk. I immediately get on my phone, scroll through my newsfeed and inbox, slowly allowing my brain to unravel. These last few weeks however, we have picked up our old habit of popping in a movie and pulling out a board game. Thankfully, Santa happened to drop off quite a few games under our tree this year, so I see many more nights of gaming in our future.
Now that our much needed staycation is coming to a close, I have definitely been reminded that it is without a doubt okay to take a break from time to time. After all, what’s living if you aren’t enjoying it? So if you find yourself feeling burned out or struggling to be productive, then consider this your get out of jail free card. It’s time to take a break!